i hate being sick, and i got all nice and sick. Pretty much slept for almost two days straight. Today i am up and moving, would say i am around 70% back to normal. Oversensitive is the key word, which leads me back to cranky.
Which leads me to hiding away in a corner to try to keep from putting my foot in my mouth yet again today. *sigh* Which can equal correction if i am not careful.
This is where it is important to focus and concentrate. i am not aiming to get in trouble, i absolutely do not want to top from the bottom .... i am just in a cranky mood. That needs self-discipline, and i am the only one capable of that.
Sunday, August 28, 2016
Wednesday, August 24, 2016
Saturday, August 20, 2016
Cranky
Dominates and submissive's can B/both get pretty cranky at times - W/we are after all human. Tonight i am one cranky little butt ... working on getting my tude in check.
Hey it happens, again we are human too.
Hey it happens, again we are human too.
Friday, August 19, 2016
Low Energy
Something important to remember, even when your energy is low, that is not a excuse. Communicate that with Your Dominates - it is a part of life, and letting Them know your tired and exhausted is important. Better to say what is wrong then let a miss communication happen. Save a lot of trouble - as i am always reminded, They are not mind readers.
On that note - rocking it tonight with DJ Mike Meyers live on BToS Radio and at Bliss Temple of Sin on SL
On that note - rocking it tonight with DJ Mike Meyers live on BToS Radio and at Bliss Temple of Sin on SL
Thursday, August 18, 2016
Busy
Learning time management, learning focus, learning prioritizing - all current activities that i am learning in great detail. Having and knowing that They are there with me, helping me through this is a huge weight off my shoulders. i know that i have a safe place to go when overwhelmed and that means the world.
That is part of the walk also, sometimes just being there for E/each other, being that safe place, that source of strength. Something i cannot describe, but it means the world to me.
That is part of the walk also, sometimes just being there for E/each other, being that safe place, that source of strength. Something i cannot describe, but it means the world to me.
Saturday, August 13, 2016
Naughty Angel
Smiles, i need to learn a little more on time management. Exhausted myself this week and slept like the dead last night. Feel so much more refreshed.
Tuesday, August 9, 2016
Communication
i am always getting told... We are not mind readers. Which makes communication very important, and yet it is still a area i struggle with. i keep my thoughts quiet, have for many many years. Retraining myself to express them has not been a easy thing, and putting them into words that make sense to O/others beyond my head even more difficult. Can i say this - it is worth it.
It is true no one can read minds, and expecting S/someone to automatically just know something - especially if it is new is ridiculous. Setting one up to fall. Talk, express, and open up those inner walls. Grow together!
One tool that is very useful is doing a journal. A bubble, a safe spot to write, vent, express, scream, cheer, question, talk. A way to open up truthful, serious dialog. Just a note, it is easy to fall into pattern of saying what needs to be said, or glossing over stuff if Y/your not careful. Like i said, opening up what is in my mind is a ongoing process. i trust Them, i just need to release that inner side that has been locked away for years upon years. Time to rewrite learned habits, for newer better ones.
Drop what does Y/you know good, and grow forward ... T/together!
This is a beautiful, powerful journey T/together - embrace it, grow, and learn.
It is true no one can read minds, and expecting S/someone to automatically just know something - especially if it is new is ridiculous. Setting one up to fall. Talk, express, and open up those inner walls. Grow together!
One tool that is very useful is doing a journal. A bubble, a safe spot to write, vent, express, scream, cheer, question, talk. A way to open up truthful, serious dialog. Just a note, it is easy to fall into pattern of saying what needs to be said, or glossing over stuff if Y/your not careful. Like i said, opening up what is in my mind is a ongoing process. i trust Them, i just need to release that inner side that has been locked away for years upon years. Time to rewrite learned habits, for newer better ones.
Drop what does Y/you know good, and grow forward ... T/together!
This is a beautiful, powerful journey T/together - embrace it, grow, and learn.
Sunday, August 7, 2016
Learning
Life is learning, in all areas there is something to learn, a way to grow. That goes for every area, as a submissive there is always something new to learn, or grow better at doing. Believe me i am far from perfect. i get caught up worrying about doing or saying the wrong thing, that i actually get myself in trouble from overthinking it all together.
Focus is essential, but so is being oneself. Overthinking can be as destructive as not thinking at all. A word of advice for A/all ... pay attention, focus, but be yourself and do not let anxiety trip Y/you up. Worrying really does not do any good, especially in area Y/you cannot control, do Y/your best and learn when Y/you fall. Get up and keep going.
Need to take my own advice on this...
Focus is essential, but so is being oneself. Overthinking can be as destructive as not thinking at all. A word of advice for A/all ... pay attention, focus, but be yourself and do not let anxiety trip Y/you up. Worrying really does not do any good, especially in area Y/you cannot control, do Y/your best and learn when Y/you fall. Get up and keep going.
Need to take my own advice on this...
Friday, August 5, 2016
Phew
Busy few days, while i love to work, i love getting off work and coming home to Those i love. i am super tired, which for is the time to pay attention to my attitude, and especially where my focus is. It is sometimes easy to forget, or get cranky and simply fail to show proper respect when one is sleepy. That is an important thing for both Dominates and submissive's to keep in mind. Our best intentions can get all goofed up when our minds are not functioning at their fullest. W/we are human and sleep is not just important but necessary.
So take care of Y/yourself so that Y/you can better take care of T/those Y/you love!
So take care of Y/yourself so that Y/you can better take care of T/those Y/you love!
Tuesday, August 2, 2016
From Draco
Not feeling great today, so it is a perfect chance for not only something educational - but to show off my bro's work - this is something that Draco put together and offered to let me use:
Orgasm control - This is also referred to as edging, peeking or surfing. It is a sexual technique which may be practiced either alone or with a partner, it involves the maintenance of high levels of arousal for a certain period of time without being allowed to orgasm. When practiced by a male, orgasm control allows the man to enjoy direct stimulation without waiting through the recovery after an orgasm. When the decision has been made to allow the orgasm, the physical sensations are much greater and more pleasurable than if the orgasm was allowed at the beginning. Orgasm control is also referred to as slow maturation this is because you or your partner want to deny orgasm whilst masturbating so therefore the masturbation is prolonged until permission is given.
In partnered sex - When shared in sexual activity between partners, one partner would stimulate the other, gradually building up to an orgasm, the intensity is then reduced so an orgasm is not triggered. If control of the orgasm is given to a partner and orgasm is not allowed for a certain amount of time in order to develop an increased level of sexual tension, it is referred to as erotic sexual denial. By carefully varying the intensity and speed of stimulation, and by practicing with the same partner to learn his or her responses, a person can be held in the highly aroused state near orgasm. This process may be repeated as desired, but at some point repetition may cause the urge to orgasm to become overwhelming. When a partner eventually provides enough stimulation to achieve an orgasm, it may be stronger than usual because the increased tension and arousal that builds up during the extended stimulation. If the partner whose orgasm is being controlled, sometimes referred to as the submissive partner, is put into physical restraints, it may better control the orgasm (the activity is sometimes called tie and tease and if orgasm is denied it is tease and denial). Another possibility is for one partner to help produce multiple orgasms in the other.
Masturbation - When practiced alone, orgasm control is beneficial for heightening sexual pleasure as well as a training tool which permits the practitioner to increase the duration of sex with a partner. For the female, because there is no post-orgasm recovery period, the practitioner can enjoy direct sexual stimulation for longer periods of time, as well as with increased frequency and intensity. For the male, the speed of the rubbing or stroking of the penis may vary to navigate right to the edge of ejaculation. With orgasm control, a male can experience a longer or more intense orgasm, as well as a larger volume of semen expelled during his ejaculation. Because solo masturbation allows for precise control over the feelings, the timing, and the speed of stimulation, many people practice orgasmic control by themselves. One technique, commonly referred to as "edging" is where one will masturbate up until the moment before reaching the point just before orgasm occurs, and then stop suddenly before experiencing a climax. Another technique, commonly referred to as "surfing" is where one will reach the point of orgasm and slow down the stimulation to maintain a heightened level of sensation for an extended time. Repeating either of these techniques many times during a single masturbation session may result in a stronger, more intense orgasm.
Orgasm control - This is also referred to as edging, peeking or surfing. It is a sexual technique which may be practiced either alone or with a partner, it involves the maintenance of high levels of arousal for a certain period of time without being allowed to orgasm. When practiced by a male, orgasm control allows the man to enjoy direct stimulation without waiting through the recovery after an orgasm. When the decision has been made to allow the orgasm, the physical sensations are much greater and more pleasurable than if the orgasm was allowed at the beginning. Orgasm control is also referred to as slow maturation this is because you or your partner want to deny orgasm whilst masturbating so therefore the masturbation is prolonged until permission is given.
In partnered sex - When shared in sexual activity between partners, one partner would stimulate the other, gradually building up to an orgasm, the intensity is then reduced so an orgasm is not triggered. If control of the orgasm is given to a partner and orgasm is not allowed for a certain amount of time in order to develop an increased level of sexual tension, it is referred to as erotic sexual denial. By carefully varying the intensity and speed of stimulation, and by practicing with the same partner to learn his or her responses, a person can be held in the highly aroused state near orgasm. This process may be repeated as desired, but at some point repetition may cause the urge to orgasm to become overwhelming. When a partner eventually provides enough stimulation to achieve an orgasm, it may be stronger than usual because the increased tension and arousal that builds up during the extended stimulation. If the partner whose orgasm is being controlled, sometimes referred to as the submissive partner, is put into physical restraints, it may better control the orgasm (the activity is sometimes called tie and tease and if orgasm is denied it is tease and denial). Another possibility is for one partner to help produce multiple orgasms in the other.
Masturbation - When practiced alone, orgasm control is beneficial for heightening sexual pleasure as well as a training tool which permits the practitioner to increase the duration of sex with a partner. For the female, because there is no post-orgasm recovery period, the practitioner can enjoy direct sexual stimulation for longer periods of time, as well as with increased frequency and intensity. For the male, the speed of the rubbing or stroking of the penis may vary to navigate right to the edge of ejaculation. With orgasm control, a male can experience a longer or more intense orgasm, as well as a larger volume of semen expelled during his ejaculation. Because solo masturbation allows for precise control over the feelings, the timing, and the speed of stimulation, many people practice orgasmic control by themselves. One technique, commonly referred to as "edging" is where one will masturbate up until the moment before reaching the point just before orgasm occurs, and then stop suddenly before experiencing a climax. Another technique, commonly referred to as "surfing" is where one will reach the point of orgasm and slow down the stimulation to maintain a heightened level of sensation for an extended time. Repeating either of these techniques many times during a single masturbation session may result in a stronger, more intense orgasm.
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